Many Jewish adults register at Jewish dating sites because they are recognized as a secure method by which to meet other individuals.  If a past relationship has caused pain, regardless of whether the relationship was on line or in person, a somewhat removed arrangement where the individual doesn't have to take the chance of being hurt again may be desirable.  Sometimes though people who are online will wear masks.  Occasionally it is to hide things from other people, at other times it is to hide the truth about ourselves.

One of the main purposes of Jewish Dating is to really get to know them as a potential person to marry.  Although set up principally as a location where Jewish singles can get acquainted, often the online dating site serves as an excellent springboard for beginning face-to-face Jewish dating.  There are guidelines which may help you to avoid problems that can occur with long-term internet relationships.

• Use the online screening to narrow the scope of possible acquaintances online to those who are within your area, geographically.  You can view the profile, if any, and see if there are common interests. 

• You can contact the individual by email to determine of there are enough common interests to talk via the chat room.  This doesn't need to be immediately.  Take the time to send a few emails back and forth and determine if you and the other party are both interested in meeting in an online chat room.

• When you are emailing, you have plenty of time to think about perfect responses, so your emails--from either party--still may not reflect the real you.  By moving to a chat room, there is not as much time to frame and polish each response, so you will continue to learn more about each other.

• If connecting in the chat room has also been a positive experience, and there is a level of trust developing, the next step might be to trade telephone numbers.  Speaking on the telephone may be somewhat awkward at first, because you're dealing with yet another one of the senses--hearing.  You are still learning about communication.  For example, if you are typing in a chat room, it's pretty hard to interrupt someone, but that can easily happen on the telephone.  If that is an annoying habit that you just can't deal with, finding out before you've invested much time in Jewish dating is an excellent idea.

• The next step in Jewish dating, after you have taken the time to talk on the telephone and build up trust and interest for the other individual, is to make arrangements to meet in a public location.  It usually is helpful to have some friends present, both for security and to provide general conversation.  The friends can also help determine whether the individuals seem well suited to each other.

Once you've gone through all the above steps you still have time to determine where the relationship should go in the future.  You may either or both decide that you don't want to continue, or you may elect to spend additional time in Jewish dating leading toward marriage.